Martha Vargas

Martha Vargas

Instructora Certificada de PSYCH-K® – PER-K®. Consultora Holística de Vida: acompaño solamente a quien está comprometido con Transformar y Diseñar una vida Feliz y Satisfactoria.

Guilt, shame & resentment

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Shame is a perception learned from childhood, where we feel that everything about us is wrong, which affects our self-esteem in a profound way, and makes us feel inadequate and incapable. From the day we were born we are learning to feel good or bad, accepted or not accepted in the world. Our self-esteem has been shaped and programmed by daily experiences in which we were praised or criticized, lovingly shown to modify our behaviors, or harshly and coldly punished and judged.

 

If the environment in which we grew up was characterized by many moments of “tough” love, aggressive words and constant criticism about our way of being, or by the total absence of interest on the part of our parents, we create a self-image based on limiting beliefs about being inadequate, inferior, insufficient and undeserving. In a word, ashamed of who we are. As we grow older, we become more sensitive to what feels like criticism, even if it isn’t, causing us to feel rejected by others, reaffirming the perception of self-loathing and worthlessness. The consequence of feeling this deep “shame” of who we are, may be the origin of behavioral patterns of self-aggression and self-punishment, where we become violent, depressed or turn to alcohol or drugs.

 

Through the various stages of human experience, it is highly likely that we’ve had moments when we have hurt other people or ourselves with our actions or words or when we have felt attacked, betrayed or abandoned. The stories related to each of these events generate feelings of guilt and resentment, which remain stored at the subconscious level of mind, as powerful imprints with which we continue to re-create similar situations in the present and we feel powerless due to the perception of not having a way to change these patterns or letting go of the resentment that poisons us daily.

As a result of these events, we carry guilt for what we did or said or we continue to feed the resentment with those we perceive to have hurt us. And, while we remain tied to the past, we are the victim of each of those events and we find ourselves repeating the same patterns in a circle that seems to have no end.

Now here is the good news! It is possible to free ourselves from these 3 powerful brothers.

While we cannot change the events of the past, we can change how we perceive ourselves, how we perceive the environment in which we grew up, how we perceive our parents, as well as each person with whom we have interacted during those events. We have the right to change how we perceive the past in order create a healthy childhood! As Rob Williams, the Originator of PSYCH-K likes to say, “With PSYCH-K®, it’s never too late to have a functional childhood!”.

The bridge to re-signify the past and create a more harmonious, balanced and compassionate present is to access the subconscious mind and give it new information about how we perceive what happened.

PSYCH-K® is a simple and effective process that allows you to access the subconscious mind to transform the limiting perception of yourself and your past and install new programs to have new eyes with which to see life. Programs that allow you to rebuild your self-esteem, programs that allow you to forgive yourself for choosing to learn from pain, programs that allow you to free yourself from being the victim of the past and take charge of creating a present in which you recover your personal power.

In addition, in PSYCH-K® we have a wonderful guide to evolve, remember our personal power and remember our essence. That guide is Mother Nature, who gifts us with a few simple Principles that we can integrate at the subconscious level of mind so that we can align our human experience by interiorizing millions of years of wisdom in a few minutes when doing a PSYCH-K®️ Balance. 

For example, considers how your life would change if you could have these new beliefs or perceptions at the subconscious level of mind:

  • Believe that you are a source of peace and joy for yourself and for everyone around you (Principle of Harmony) instead of sustaining the addiction to creating situations of pain as a way of self-punishment
  • Accept responsibility for the choices you have made in your life and for the results (Principle of Cause and Effect) instead of feeding the guilt and resentment that keep you in the victim mode
  • Act consciously, choosing how to treat yourself and others, with the clarity that we are all connected (Principle of Interconnectedness) instead of sustaining the reactive or aggressive patterns learned in childhood.
  • Find harmony, even in difficult situations (Principle of Harmony) to recover your personal power and re-signify the past based on forgiveness and gratitude (at the subconscious level of mind instead of trying to forgive, which actually leads you to not forget!) 
  • Honor and respect the feelings of others as well as yours (Principle of Interconnectedness) to understand that the people you consider have hurt you or who you have hurt in the past, acted from what they knew at that time. This gives you the power to learn the lessons, grow and be grateful and as a result, stop being the victim and free them from your mind.

 

Can you imagine the power you have? These changes at the subconscious level, free all those you have had occupying space in your mind and in your heart and you free yourself. This allows you to recover energy and mental space that you can use to activate your creativity, feel more peace, and discover new ways to enjoy your daily life.

 

If you are interested in learning how to go from being a victim of the past to being an architect of your daily destiny, visit psych-k.com to see the calendar of upcoming workshops.

 

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